Once the kids are back to school and mom has more time on their hands they may begin to consider ways to bring in extra cash. Spending time on the internet searching for work at home opportunities can often be rewarding, provided you understand that there are many scams being offered, many targeted for the stay at home parents looking to make money. Working at home is an inviting concept and many opportunities exist that represent a legitimate means of finding work. Unfortunately, there are plenty more where the only ones who make money are those offering the opportunities themselves. Beware the headlines such as “Learn how to crack the code to internet riches”, and “I was a victim of 37 scams until I stumbled across this opportunity”. When looking through offers for an internet business opportunity, you need to ask yourself some serious questions about the offer. Many will carry a similar theme indicating they have found a way to make bundles of cash online and want to share the secret. You need to ask yourself, why? Here is a perfect stranger, willing to share with you the secret they use to make millions of dollars online. Of course this secret is not going to be free. Sometimes the offer are available for a limited time price of just $29. 90 against its actual price of $79. 90 and you will get a complete package on information how you can make your money. Sales letters can be very convincing that really get you into the excitement to buy. Why aren’t they sharing this information with their family and close friends so they can have an entire family of wealthy relatives? Why are they offering this opportunity to strangers? Possibly because their families and friends are suckered into their last get-rich-quick scheme. The fact is there is no easy way to be rich. You have to work it. To a lesser extend there are various kinds of e-books on the internet that claim can help you propel your struggling internet home business to greater success. Often beginners in the internet business are their easy target. Without proper knowledge of internet stuff and the desire to make money, beginners can easily fall prey to their pitch to buy their product. One of the most prolific scams online is signing up to be a secret shopper. There are many companies that do use secret shoppers to visit stores and restaurants and turn in a review to the company informing them how a particular unit is performing. To claim this company can hook you up with many companies where you can get paid up to $40 an hour doing things you love to do and keep everything you bought, is nothing more than a scam. Yes, these companies have the names and addresses of the companies that use secret shoppers and that is what you will be buying. Once you send in your payment, which varies from $19. 95 to $39. 95, you will recieve a list of companies that use secret shoppers and instructions on how to fill out their online application. If the company is looking for more shoppers they might contact you for future interview. Most of these offers carry no guarantee that you will ever be chosen to be their secret shopper, let alone get paid $40 an hour for going to a restaurant. It is good to be extra careful when you get offers that sound too good to be true. There may be a catch somewhere you might not know. Also remember sales letters are written by professional to get you to buy their products. It may help if you get the opinion of others before you make your purchase. Note: You have permission to reprint this article in its entirety in your newsletter or blog. Also please feel free to pass it along to others who you think would enjoy it.
Divorce is becoming one such problem, eroding the very base of our society; marriage. More and more marriages are breaking up leaving behind scores of confused, hurt and lonely people. The effects are there for all to see as we come across broken families, disillusioned spouses and children with behavioural problems.
One of the main effects of divorce is a sense of alienation and loneliness a person experiences right after the divorce. There is a loss of common friends and of extended family. He suffers in isolation during the most difficult period of his life. It is a challenging time for anyone and the person needs as many people around him as possible. Unfortunately, often the opposite becomes true.
Emotions run high after a divorce, lots of problems await solution, there are many unanswered questions and you are embarrassed to face the world. At a time like this it is comforting to have someone listening to you. Interacting with like minded people who have undergone similar experience goes a long way in understanding and facing the situation squarely.
It is not always possible to involve close family or friends in it as you feel you have let them down. They might have close relationship with the ex spouse. Also, sometime it is easier to share personal details with complete strangers than close family.
This is where the support groups for divorce come in. A divorce support group is a ready made network of people who are or have been through a similar situation as yours. Groups can be large and small, professionally operated or member run but all of them provide understanding and mutual support and an exchange of useful, pragmatic information too.
Group members of a support group meet periodically to talk. The focus of the groups is on letting go off the past in order to move forward and rebuild life. You can consult your attorney, counsellor, internet, yellow pages or local church to gain access to such groups in your area.
The initial meetings in the group might be uncomfortable and inhibited. With time you will be able to open up and the healing process will start as you will see yourself leaving bitterness and resentment behind. You will regain your confidence and have more faith in what life has in store for you.
Sometimes the healing process works in reverse. As you help and reassure other members of the group, you see your own pain disappearing. It fills you with positive energy and in control of the situation. Some support groups go beyond mutual support and help you in legal action and financial advice.
Finding the right group is very important to ensure maximum success. Look for a group that fits your need and makes you feel comfortable. There are some things to consider while selecting a support group:1. Therapy or Support Groups: Therapy groups are managed by professionals, have fees and have strict conditions of attendance. Support groups on the other hand are often free; more member-oriented and have a relaxed and helpful atmosphere. 2. Size: Choose a group size that will serve you better. Large groups can make you feel lost and unattended. They also provide you the anonymity you might prefer. Smaller groups give each member a chance and time to be heard. 3. Men, Women or Mixed: A mixed group helps you see both sides of the coin and help reduce resentment towards other gender. It might not allow you to drop your inhibitions and express all your feelings though. Same gender group lets you open up without getting conscious. 4. Location: A group relatively closer to home will not only be convenient but will also encourage more attendance. 5. Frequency: Every group has fixed intervals between meetings. Choose the one which meets as often as you would need them to effectively help you. 6. Commitment: Some groups require a commitment of 10 weeks, or three months, or some other time period. Others are open-ended, letting you attend as long as you want or letting you quit with just a two week notice.
Going to a support group will see you meeting complete strangers and forging life time friendships with them. It saves you from the agony of suffering in isolation. What is also important to remember though is that they are not a replacement for professional therapy, counseling and medication.
Once the kids to back to school and mom has a little more time on their hands they may begin to consider ways to bring in some extra cash with a home business. Spending time on the internet searching for work at home opportunities can often be rewarding, provided you understand that there are many scams being offered, many targeted for the stay at home parents looking to make money. Your own home business is an inviting concept and many opportunities exist that present a legitimate means of finding work. Unfortunately, there are plenty more where the only ones who make money are those offering the opportunity. Beware of headlines such as “Learn how to crack the code to internet riches,” and “I was a victim of 37 scams until I stumbled across this opportunity. “ When looking through offers for a home business opportunity you need to ask yourself some serious questions about the offer. Many will carry a similar theme indicating they have found a way to make bundles of cash online and want to share the secret. You need to ask yourself, why? Here is perfect stranger, willing to share with me the secret they use to make millions of dollars online. Of course this secret is not going to be free, and sometimes it is available for a limited time price of just $19. 95 and you will receive their complete information package of how you can make money. Why aren’t they sharing this information with family and close friends so they can have an entire family of wealthy relatives? Why are they offering this opportunity to strangers? Possibly because their family and friends were suckered into their last get-rich-quick scheme. One of the most prolific scams online is signing up to be a secret shopper. There are many companies that do use secret shoppers to visit stores and restaurants and turn in a review to the company informing them how a particular unit is performing. To claim this company can hook you up with many companies where you can get paid up to $40 an hour doing things you love to do and keep everything you bought, is nothing more than a scam. Yes, these companies have the names and addresses of the companies that use secret shoppers and that is what you will be buying. Once you send in your payment, which varies from $19. 95 to $39. 95, you will receive a list of companies that use secret shoppers and instructions on how to fill out their online applications. If the company is looking for more shoppers they might contact you for a future interview. Most of these offers carry no guarantee that you will ever be chosen to be a secret shopper, let alone get paid $40 an hour for going to a restaurant. There are many resources available to you on the internet that will enable you to do some extremely important research on any scams or legitimate home businesses. Do not hesitate to use these resources to further evaluate any seemingly upstanding internet opportunities that are asking for you to put forth your hard earned money. One of my favorite sites for checking up on internet opportunities is WAH watchdog. WAH stands for Work At Home and this site is extremely easy to use. There is a long list of many of the offerings available on the internet and they display grades that you typically find in your children’s report card. . . . Well hopefully not the D’s or F’s but it is very well laid out and simple to use. If you don’t locate the site you are interested in then submit a request to have your questionable site listed and then others will vote or “rate” the site according to their experience with them, an excellent way to have other people’s experience translated for you without having to empty the piggy bank! Try it at http://www. wahwatchdog. org/ I personally have been eaten alive by many online opportunities myself, succumbed to the predators whom prey on visitors emotions, get you all pumped up to make your first million in a day or two, then find out they make all their huge money by taking you to the cleaners. I am now fully informed of most of the legitimate online opportunities available online, and I can actively give you info on programs that actually “WORK. ” I have helped many people based on what type of program they would like to actively persue. For instance, there are online opportunities that I am currently active in where you can make money right now, not a lot and you have to do some work to get paid, but they are legitimate and I have deposits sent to my paypal account consistently through this particular program. Then there are programs where you have to make some investment, but they are a residual based money making opportunities to where you have to be active in the business almost everyday, but the rewards for this are a life-long investment where you will earn residual income virtually for the rest of your life. I also have a couple of matrix type investments that actually work, and make you real money. So there are many opportunities available, you just have to do the research and find something that fits you, the opportunity you need is the one that works with how you want to associate yourself with that particular business.
Tags : Business, Home, Lurking, Opportunities, Scams
Once the kids to back to school and mom has a little more time on their hands they may begin to consider ways to bring in some extra cash. Spending time on the internet searching for work at home opportunities can often be rewarding, provided you understand that there are many scams being offered, many targeted for the stay at home parents looking to make money.
Working at home is an inviting concept and many opportunities exist that present a legitimate means of finding work. Unfortunately, there are plenty more where the only ones who make money are those offering the opportunity. Beware of headlines such as “Learn how to crack the code to internet riches,” and “I was a victim of 37 scams until I stumbled across this opportunity. ”
When looking through offers for an internet business opportunity you need to ask yourself some serious questions about the offer. Many will carry a similar theme indicating they have found a way to make bundles of cash online and want to share the secret. You need to ask yourself, why? Here is perfect stranger, willing to share with me the secret they use to make millions of dollars online. Of course this secret is not going to be free, and sometimes it is available for a limited time price of just $19. 95 and you will receive their complete information package of how you can make money.
Why aren’t they sharing this information with family and close friends so they can have an entire family of wealthy relatives? Why are they offering this opportunity to strangers? Possibly because their family and friends were suckered into their last get-rich-quick scheme.
One of the most prolific scams online is signing up to be a secret shopper. There are many companies that do use secret shoppers to visit stores and restaurants and turn in a review to the company informing them how a particular unit is performing. To claim this company can hook you up with many companies where you can get paid up to $40 an hour doing things you love to do and keep everything you bought, is nothing more than a scam.
Yes, these companies have the names and addresses of the companies that use secret shoppers and that is what you will be buying. Once you send in your payment, which varies from $19. 95 to $39. 95, you will receive a list of companies that use secret shoppers and instructions on how to fill out their online applications. If the company is looking for more shoppers they might contact you for a future interview. Most of these offers carry no guarantee that you will ever be chosen to be a secret shopper, let alone get paid $40 an hour for going to a restaurant.
Many people have enjoyed watching the movie, The Da Vincni Code. At the end of the movie, Tom Hanks says “maybe human is divine. ” That is what this article is about. The Hebrew scriptures were probably good at helping new societies since it covered a lot of basic rules on how to live in a good way.
But Jesus rebelled against this and taught people to forgive others instead, hence the saying “turn the other cheek. ” The basic message of Jesus was not that He was going to die to get rid of the Adam and Eve curse. So what was it? We can use the process of elimination.
Did He tell people to love a certain building or place like a temple? No. Did He tell people to love a certain idea and kill other people who are against it? No. Did He tell people to love or worship a certain book? No. He said “Love thy neighbor. ” Did He say “Love thy neighbor if they are good in your judgment and they have the same beliefs as you?” No. Did He teach that the sacred or holy thing on this planet was a book (like the bible), place, building, belief or chalice (cup)? No.
He taught that the holy or sacred thing on this planet is the human being. But people were searching for the Holy Grail (cup or dish used by Jesus). Well, search no further. The true world treasure can be found by you looking in the mirror. It is you. And this is the one thing on this entire planet that deserves love and respect, the human being. That was the basic message of Jesus.
There are some modern day sayings like “Those who know, do. Those who don’t know, teach. ” Then there is one, “Talk is cheap. ” Another is “Actions speak louder than words. ” Now you can ask any medical doctor or anthropologist if Jesus was a fish, camel, tree, a wheel or a human being. They will tell you that He was a human being. So besides teaching this outrageous notion that a human being is divine, He lived it. He demonstrated what He was teaching with His life and actions. This is by far the harder thing to do. Did Jesus say that He was the light of the world and no one else?
Some people are concerned about mistranslations of the bible so here are several of them. Jesus said the following to His disciples according to the King James Version, (Matthew 5:”Ye are the light of the world. . . . ” In The Jerusalem Bible, He says “You are the light of the world. . . . ” In New International Version (NIV), He says “You are the light of the world. . . . ” In the New American Bible (NAB), He says “You are the light of the world. . . . “
Jesus says (Matthew 7:1) “Do not judge, or you too shall be judged. ” Jesus says (Matthew 7:3) ” Why look at the speck in your brother’s eye when you miss the plank in your own. ” Jesus says (Matthew 7:12) (NAB) “Treat others the way you would have them treat you: this sums up the law and the prophets. ” In NIV “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. ” Also in (NIV) Matthew 5:38, it says ” If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. ” Now doesn’t this sound excessive to you, unless the human being is divine.
Instead of me putting up a list of how we should treat others, you can create a list of how you would like others to treat you. Then you could follow that on how to treat others. This needs to begin and end with you. You are not really doing this for others but for yourself. If you help someone thinking that you are doing it for him, it will make you resent helping him if he treats you badly. Jesus taught to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
The reason that you do this is not for the other person but for you. By doing this, it opens doors and helps you to discover the incredible beauty that is inside of you. By hurting others, it closes doors for you making it harder to feel your true nature which is perfect peace, endless love and unlimited happiness and way beyond that. It is better to help strangers that you may never see again. By helping friends and relatives, you may be doing it expecting something back from it. The act of helping stranger could be called random acts of kindness. When someone is treating you badly, they are giving you their good luck. So enjoy this gift. If you treat them badly, you are giving your good luck to them.
There is a new psychology called Positive Psychology. You can read about it in a book called Authentic Happiness (© 2002) by Martin E. P. Seligman, Ph. D. He is the Fox Leadership Professor of Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, the director of the Positive Psychology Network and the former president of the American Psychological Association. Among the 20 books he wrote are Learned Optimism and The Optimistic Child. Andrew Weil, M. D. says “Martin Seligman is the leading spokesman for the new movement of Positive Psychology, which focuses on mental health rather then mental illness. “
He teaches how it is better to focus on increasing happiness instead of getting rid of mental problems. It tells about a study they did in a class where they had people go out and have fun. When they got back, they let te others know the results. They enjoyed themselves. No surprise there. Then they went out and did altruistic acts where they help other people. They came back and reported the results. They had life changing experiences. One guy decided to change his major in college due to it. So that is something you can do to help yourself.
The cover story of Time Magazine January 17, 2005 is about Dr. Seligman and the group he put together (which includes Dr. Edward Diener– AKA Dr Happiness) to form the Positive Psychology Network. The article is called The New Science of Happiness. Copyright 2008 by Chuck Bluestein.
Video games are a part of life. And a child playing video games is no crime. Parents must learn that the world is changing and that children need to be brought up a little differently from a decade ago. Instead it is better if parent learn all they can about video gaming and allow their children to play video games safely.
Video games can be beneficial or harmful depending on which games are played. Many gaming associations, manufacturers and PTAs help parents learn all about video games and how to monitor gaming. There are magazines as well as online websites that have articles and reviews as well as tips on gaming. These are informative and act as guidelines for parents who are relatively new to the nuances of gaming.
• Games are mainstream now so teach the kids all about gaming taboos and safety rules.
• Choose games that are appropriate to the ages of the kids and be sure to read the ratings as well as reviews before buying any game.
• When buying a game system buy one that has extra controllers so that kids can play with friends and parental controls. This will enable you to control games being played and the children will become socially adept by playing with others.
• Always allow children to play video games in the family room or parlor. A social location for gaming is safer than in their own rooms out of sight of adults.
• Avoid encouraging children to play “bad” games. Games that are filled with violence and aggressions. Know the content of games by speaking to other parents and older children.
• Games are reviewed unbiased at sites like Playstation. about. com and Xbox. about. com.
• Monitor the distance at which the kids play games. There are several tips on how to play video games right on the World Wide Web which outline sitting posture, distance from the monitor or television screen, the number of hours one should play and so on.
• Set down the rules right at the beginning. Rules care simple and do able: limit the video gaming time; allow video gaming with local friends only; if children are small do not encourage gaming online, emphasize that the children are not to play with or chat with strangers.
• Befriend your child so that he or she will tell you if a game uses inappropriate language. And if they do play online to block unsavory characters form getting in touch with the kids.
• Emphasize that they are never to reveal their personal details, phone numbers, and addresses to strangers online or offline.
• Children must learn that they cannot borrow video games from friends without your knowledge.
Make time to play with the children and teach them how to deal with life and judge what is right and wrong. Gaming can be enjoyable if done right.
Tags : Game, Guidelines, Managing, Playing, Video
By Carl âJ. C. â Pantejo, Copyright March 2008
(Author âMy Friend Yu â The Prosperity Mentor,â Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y. N. Vurce Publishing. )
âProsperity: The eternal flow of all thatâs good in lifeâ¦â
*Below is the seventeenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in âMy Friend Yu â the Prosperity Mentor: Book II,â Pantejo - Y. N. Vurce Publishing. Release Date: 2008.
In âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (16). . . ,â we looked at Neutral Relationships (i. e. , when you put the Pluses and Minuses on Your Satisfaction Scale, the scale was balanced).
We discussed why so many people stay in such relationships. Then, we investigated Fear vs. Desire and the futility of trying to change anotherâs basic character.
The final verdict/recommendation?
Neutral Relationships are not worth the time, effort, money, and emotions expended.
In this article, we delve into the first (of the other two) Scale configurations: Blatant Incompatibility.
- Blatant Incompatibility: A âno-brainerâ? -
â¦If the Minuses on Your Satisfaction Scale vastly outnumber the Pluses, the picture is obvious: Gross Incompatibility.
It should be a âno-brainerâ.
You would think everyone would automatically avoid Incompatible Relationships, or at least exit them immediately when identified; but unfortunately, they donât.
Even the most âsensibleâ among us can get stuck in an obviously Incompatible Relationship. It becomes a painful, lose/win situation.
How does this happen?
As Dr. Steven Covey says, âCommon sense is not always common practice. â
- The Specter of Fear -
The fear of loneliness (discussed in âExperiences from âThe Flowâ [16]â¦â), keeps people in Neutral Relationships. This same type of fear (albeit in a larger amount and at a much stronger intensity) locks others into Incompatible Relationships.
Next in line is the fear of Replacement Failure; that is, the fear of failing to replace their current partner.
Many people stay within an Incompatible Relationship because they think the prospects of replacing their partner are bleak - no matter how incompatible their current partner may be.
Of course, this is nonsense! In fact, pure strangers have a better compatibility level than their current Minus-heavy partner.
Nevertheless, people locked into Incompatible Relationships are convinced that âWhat Iâve got is the best I can get â ever!â
If this describes you, I urge you to read my article, âRemember Who You Are!â In it, you will see that you are a special individual with unique gifts.
And you deserve to be happy.
- A no-win situation -
I have worked with many fellow Farang (Thai: foreigner) English teachers who are coupled with abusive Thai wives or girlfriends.
These teachers would show up for work with deep scratch marks on their faces, black eyes, and bruises (blatant evidence of a night spent quarrelling with the âlittle womanâ).
When asked, they confess that their home-life is akin to a schizophrenic war zone, feeling like they have to walk an emotional tightrope as soon as they enter their own houses.
Many times, they tell me that work is more relaxing than being at home.
Huh? I want to grab them by the shoulders and shout, âDude! Wake up! That vampire is sucking the life out of you!â
The fights are over the same things, week after week (e. g. , money, infidelity, relatives, friends, etc. ). No permanent solution is ever reached. No resolutions are made.
And the fight/strained silence/make-up/fight cycle continues.
âItâs like listening to a broken record â over and over again,â my friend says, looking much like the desperate mouse caught in a mousetrap.
Several of them try to cope by escaping - temporarily. For respite, they flee to the tourist areas and bars of Bangkok. But the foray into what their partners perceive as âBar Girl/Hooker Heavenâ just fuels the fire for the next, inevitable fight.
- The Money Issueâ¦again! -
Even if no shenanigans were committed, the resentment over money âwastedâ becomes the central issue.
Veterans of Thailand and Western/Asian relationships will wholeheartedly agree with the following Farang/Thai Money Axiom:
It makes no difference if she has a job or business (or that her only source of money is you), âHer money is her money and your money is her money!â
In a traditional Thai couple setup, a âgood husbandâ forks over his wages to the wife.
Or, if living in someone elseâs home (e. g. , her familyâs house), the money is given to the eldest for his/her âwise managementâ.
As stated in âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (10)â¦,â never forget the unyielding rules about Family, and Money:
1. Asians survive mainly through Family connections
2. Logically, if you are not considered âFamily,â you are not significant to their survival; therefore, not of any vital importance. (I call it the âIf you ainât family, you ainât $hi+â rule).
3. To be fully considered âFamily,â financial support is expected/demanded.
4. Money is not just âmoneyâ in Asia; it means EVERYTHING (life/death, love/hate, marriage/bachelorhood, happiness/sadness, etc. )
Because of these conditions, Farang and Thai men alike end up âshelteringâ their personal âfun moneyâ from the prying eyes of their partner and partnerâs family.
Thatâs why itâs common to have multiple bank accounts from unrelated financial institutions.
Personally, I have four of them.
- Crime and Punishment -
After a few drinks at a pub (or, heaven forbid, a late day at the office), when a Farang comes home:
It doesnât matter if the Farang did or did not âbe a good boyâ (i. e. , simply relaxed with friends/colleagues, had a Western style meal, enjoyed some drinks and English conversation, etc. ), he is guilty until proven innocent as soon as he walks through his front door.
Again, itâs a no-win situation.
Finally, after repeatedly being âpunished for an uncommitted crime,â many Farangs simply decide, âWhy not? I might as well do the crime!â
- A Tale of Two Farangs -
Currently, two of my co-workers are deeply embroiled in abusive, Incompatible Relationships.
It is not within the scope of this article to investigate the complex dynamics of chronic abuse/relationship cycles. But suffice it to say that when all is said and done, there are only two options: Stay or Go.
And thatâs exactly what each one of my co-workers is doing. One is staying and one is going.
- Staying -
The âStayingâ one tells me heâs âtrying to work it outâ (meaning: for one reason or another, he thinks he can manage/tolerate the current situation and change the picture of his Scale). In my experience (and statistically), his chances are slim to none.
He and his situation remind me of the following story:
- The Hound on the Porch -
A traveling salesman happens upon a country farm house and decides to sell his wares to the occupants of the home. He walks onto the wooden porch and knocks on the front door.
Before the door opens, the salesman hears the moaning of a hound dog sprawled out on the far end of the porch. It sounds miserable.
The dog appears to be in pain. The poor thing looks pathetic. It doesnât even lift its head while whining.
The door opens and a farmer greets the salesman.
âHello stranger. What âcha peddling?â says the farmer.
âMany things that Iâd like to show you, but I must ask you something first. I love pets and have two dogs at home. Thatâs why I couldnât help noticing your dog over there. He seems to be in pain. He just lays there, whines, and moans. Is he okay?â
âOh you mean Sam over there? Heâs just moaning because heâs lying on a couple of nails that stick out of my porch,â says the farmer.
âWhy doesnât he just move? Is he paralyzed?â says the perplexed salesman.
âOh, no. Heâs still a great âcoon huntinâ hound dog. Why he ainât movinâ? Simple. You see, son, I reckon he ainât hurtinâ enough yet,â says the farmer.
(Like the hound dog, I guess my friend âainât hurtinâ enough yetâ. )
Oh well, itâs his life.
And as I explained in the last article (âExperiences from âThe Flowâ [16]â¦â), itâs a supreme exercise in futility to try to change anyone. Any change in any person must be self-directed.
In my friendâs case, sooner or later, something must give.
I predict that when the pain of staying grossly overshadows the effort of going (i. e. , âheâs hurtinâ enoughâ), he will end the relationship.
But will he learn anything from it? I donât know.
Unfortunately, experts (psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, etc. ) will tell you that recidivism (the tendency to return to an abusive relationship or habit) is high among abused boyfriends and girlfriends.
- Going -
The âGoingâ friend has come to terms with the reality of his situation: an incompatible, abusive relationship that holds no hope in changing for the better.
Additionally, since my friend is a young man with no college degree, he is concerned about the future of his son.
He could work towards beefing up his resume/C. V with a teaching degree and a Thai teaching license. That would surely open the door to much higher paying jobs.
But it would be a huge challenge to attempt a college degree and license on his current English teaching salary.
He doubts that Thailand is the place he wants his child to grow up in.
Staying in Thailand would relegate him and his son to the lifestyle of the Thai middle (to lower) class.
Compared to England, Thailand is minus much of the amenities of modern living. (For examples of the differences in Western vs. Asian standards of living, please see âExperiences from âThe Flowâ [7] and [8]).
The Thai Governmental Educational system especially, can not compete with the West for encouraging creative thinking and individual problem-solving.
In Thailand, Private/International schools are very, very expensive (and in my opinion, provide a much lower quality education than Western public schools).
Health insurance is something new among middle-class employees in Thailand.
But my friendâs health insurance would be considered primitive by Western standards. I remember him complaining that the birth of his son and subsequent check-ups are eating him alive since they arenât covered by his insurance.
So, if my friend stays in Thailand, public school for his son and emergency-only, low-cost healthcare will be their fate.
Personally, I applaud him. It takes courage to face up to life and do something about it.
So, in less than a week, he is leaving for his home country. Also, unlike many other foreigners who father a child then vanish into thin air, heâs doing the loving and honorable thing: He is taking his half-Thai/half-British son with him.
I foresee a much better future for him and his son.
The son will no longer be witness to daily arguments between his parents. He will be surrounded by my friendâs family for care and support. And he will benefit from the higher standard of living and education in England.
Likewise, my friend will have a thousand more opportunities open to him in England for success.
Continued in âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (18): A Good Tilt with a Bar Girl?â
âUntil next time, find âThe Flowâ and jump in!â
Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,
Carl âJ. C. â Pantejo
Farang, Asia, neutral, incompatible, fear, desire, relationship, pluses, minuses, stay, go, satisfaction, scale, needs, desires.
Note: If you want to read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, finding unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ: From Heartbreak to Happinessâ
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES. . . â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Mistakes made in Haste. â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (4): LOST AND FOUND â Meant to Be?â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (5): âThe Strayâ
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (6): âNew Beginnings, Old Endingsâ
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (7) - Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Mythâ
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (8) Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Reality, Stupidity, and Hard Knocks. â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (9): New Girlfriend, New Life. â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (10): Farangs and Asians â Polarized Views. â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (11) - Farangs: In (or considering) a long-term Western/Asian Relationship? Read This Now!
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility Issues. â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (13) - Farang: Compatibility Issues IIâ
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (14) - Farang: Tipping the Scales. Good or Bad?â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (15) - Farang: Interpretation of Your Results. â
âExperiences from âThe Flowâ (16) - Farang: Make Your Scale Sway or Walk Away. â
âHow Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgiveâ
âRemember Who You Are!â
âNeed to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Overcome Heartbreak and Learn the Illusive Secret of Happiness. â
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Your resume is one of the most important documents that you will ever have to create in your life. And yet, many people spend no more than an hour creating their resume! Perhaps their resumes are accurate then? Maybe their entire work history can be hastily written in an hour - all their skills, knowledge, qualifications, interests and experience! Or are they just underselling themselves?
Take a step back from your resume. Think about it for a minute about what you have written. You are giving these few sheets of paper to a complete stranger and hope they will help you change your life! Sure, you know what you meant in that summary you wrote. . . . but do they? Often, people miss out certain important aspects of their capabilities because they assume that the person reading the resume will know what they meant. But is this the case? Not always.
Pretend a complete stranger handed it to you and have a think about what your resume really says about you. Consider even passing it to a friend or relative and ask them to read over it. This is particularly effective with people who don’t know much about your profession - chances are the recruiter will know just as little! Well, that usually isn’t true, but if you assume it is, then you cover yourself!
Tragically, those who don’t lie on their resumes stand to lose jobs to those who do. That’s where most candidates go wrong and are tempted to give in to peer pressure or exploitation at the hands of a head-hunter. In times of temptation, it is important to remember that it is what you do with the document, rather than what the document can do for you. A resume is only a marketing tool.
Split up each section of your resume and write in on a separate document and have a look at it on its own. Remember - recruiters will be focusing on individual parts of your resume more than the resume as a whole (it’s all new to them - they are reading it and learning about you for the first time).
Another benefit of doing this is that it lets you refine areas of your resume one by one. Sometimes we tend to jump from section to section, doing little bits here and there. This can lead to your resume having an inconsistent feel.
Having read your resume as if it weren’t your own, can you honestly say you liked what you read? Is the person you describe on your resume the kind of person you would hire for the job you are applying for? What have you missed?
Try to figure it out sincerely, this is your first step towards your dream job!
So just don’t just churn out a resume and send it out to apply for jobs. It’s a very important part of your job search and if you don’t get it right, you will get more practice because you will be applying for lots of jobs!
A list of the hottest urban music producers in the game. From train horn samples to old soul records to live instrumentation, hip-hop production is some of the most exciting new music today, so take note. If you’re looking to make that cheddar and buy those new Mercedes Benz rims you could do worse than work as a music producer selling your beats for thousands of dollars to rappers. The Neptunes This production duo of Pharrell Williams and Chad Hugo are considered one of the most innovative and influential hip-hip and pop music producers of the decade, creating some of the biggest hits for artists like Snoop Dogg (“Drop it Like It’s Hot”), Justin Timberlake and Ludacris. They have set themselves apart from many other hip-hop producers by working on entire albums with artists such as The Clipse and Gwen Stefani. Their record label, Star Trak Entertainment includes artists such as Slim Thug and Robin Thicke, making them a force to be reckoned with in the hip-hop production and label scene. Araab Muzik This young producer from New York has been working exclusively with the Dipset Record label and rapper Cam’ron in particular. He has uploaded a number of videos onto Youtube showcasing his skills on the MPC 2500, a live beat production machine that is easy to use but difficult to master. If Dipset lets him loose he could be tearing up the charts with hit records for other artists outside the label, but knowing Dipset they will keep him to themselves, hoarding him as their own little secret. Check out his track “Get it in Ohio” for the best example of his heavy sound. Timbaland Timothy Mosely aka Timbaland is considered one of the most innovative producer in R&B and rap, shying away from the sampling style of hip-hop and creating more original and synth heavy beats. Timbaland got his biggest breaks working with Aaliyah and Ginuine in his early days and went on to fully produce and rap on his own releases with partner Magoo. He then went on to work with Justin Timberlake on his solo debut “Justified,” which Timberlake was so happy with he asked Timbaland to produce the entirely of his sophomore release. Making beats for Jay-Z, Keri Hilson and even Duran Duran and Bjork, Timbaland is obviously one of the most sought after producers in rock, hip hop and electronica.
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I have an interesting, if weird, habit. I read the obituaries every day. I tell people it’s to make sure I’m not being featured there-but what I’m really doing is reading the life stories of (usually) complete strangers. From reading these stories, I often get ideas for my own tales.
There are heroes and housewives, farmers and physicians. There’s the man who went home “escorted by angels. ” What a visual. How about the woman, surrounded by her family, whose long battle with cancer was now over? There is the person who died “unexpectedly”. . . but at 92 years old? With reverence, I read of the baby who died before he’d lived. Yet he too had a story, albeit a brief one. There is the sad story of a man who fought in WWII whose only relative was his dog Rusty. . . I wondered where would old Rusty go now?
Friends, neighbors and strangers all had lives before those lives ended. Some were entertainingly interesting, others morbidly mundane.
Don’t be afraid to read the obits. The life stories you find there are the stuff of which great creative works can be made. They are tales most marvelous if you will only read between the “lives. . . ”
Now change gears and ask yourself something:Do you know for what you thirst? If you were in the desert you would know that you desired water.
But when the world is cool and you aren’t parched…what then?
If you are like me, you thirst for time, or place, or a character to populate some creative endeavor. You want that something or someone to be new and refreshing. I believe it’s closer than you might think.
Do you hear bits and pieces of conversations here and there? Have you visited a park, mall or grocery store? Have you met someone new?
Each of these experiences can lend themselves to your creativity. That new person, with a few tweaks, could be the foundation for character. The wedding you just attended may be fodder for fiction as well. Listening to a child’s conversation at a playground or sports event can give you a jump start!
If you thirst, look around you and listen. There is something waiting there just to refresh and inspire you. And if this fails-read the obits!
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